There are no perfect persons; no perfect relationships but in this lifetime, you’re lucky to even meet someone molded to fit the curves of your being  and fill the empty spaces of your soul.

I can’t say that I have the perfect partner. I can only say that I have the partner who fits me. There are things that I love about him and there are those that I love to hate. For almost 17 months and 3 weeks, I’ve seen more of himself than I could ever imagine I would see. Tonight, as I recall those months, I managed to come up with 3 lists of 5 things.

5 Things I Love About Him

  1. Scent. Not his cologne, but his natural fragrance. He has this unique sweet powdery scent. It smells of a boy who has just taken a bath.
  2. Shoulders. I have this very weird habit of kissing his shoulder every time we’re together. At first I thought it was because he’s taller than I am and his shoulder is the easiest part to reach and kiss. Then I realized, I just really love his shoulders. It speaks of the security I feel when he wraps his arm around me.
  3. Voice. The first time I talked to him on the phone I couldn’t believe that he was the guy on the other end of the line. He sounded so mature and confident with himself. He is confident all right, but he can be so immature when he’s angry.
  4. Being understanding. When we first got together, I thought I will never be able to make him understand me. There are still times that he doesn’t but I appreciate his efforts of trying to. Like any other girl, I breathe ironies, metaphors and sometimes sarcasms. While I know he would rather have me say things straight to his face, he lets me explain things in my own terms.
  5. Sweetness. His sweetness is like rain in a mid-summer day. Surprising and refreshing. There are girls who have very sweet boyfriends, girls who always get surprises and unscheduled visits. I am not any of those. I am always at a lost for words when my partner decides to shower me with sweetness. I appreciate the rarity of his sweetness because it makes me treasure every moment more than I would do if I get it everyday.

5 Things I Love to Hate About Him

  1. His Gangstah thing. While I can tolerate seeing and being with people whose clothes are twice or thrice bigger than their sizes, I can’t tolerate seeing my partner wear oversized shirts and pants. I also can’t  bear to listen to his gangstah talks. I don’t like violence. Gangstah is synonymous to violence. I don’t like listening to gangstah rappers whose songs revolve around the words fuck and whores. I call his music noise.
  2. Cats. My partner loves cats. I don’t hate these 4-legged fury creatures but I’m not fond of them.  They scare me crazy. We have 3 stray cats that scavenge for food. I fear that in their search for scrap foods, they’ll attack and bite me.
  3. Geek modes. While I like dating smart guys, I don’t feel comfortable around geeky guys. I feel stupid every time my partner goes into geek mode and tells me things like the history of an ancient tradition or how a certain hardware works. He’s cute when he’s on geek mode, but it always leaves me thinking what the conversation was  about or if my partner is still speaking earth language. Thank heavens it doesn’t happen often.
  4. Lemme pay. Between the 2 of us, he’s always been the responsible one. He encourages me to cut down on my expenses. I should have placed this on the things I love List but  I hate it more than I love it. Recently, I’ve noticed that he’s been paying more often for our dates. I’m starting to feel uncomfortable with it already. I’d like to be able to share with our expenses. I’ve never had any problems with dutch dates. In fact, I prefer dutch dates over the more normal “lemme pay”/ “I’ll handle the bill” dates.
  5. Work. If it’s going to be me to decide what work he should have, I would like him not to be in the BPO industry mainly because it messes with his health. Another reason is I have this not-so-good impression on any BPO environment (no pun intended on those who work for a BPO company. I’ve been there  a few times too). I just think that the environment is so liberated. I am not the conservative type but the BPO environment overwhelms me so much that I feel uncomfortable being in it.

5 Reasons I Love Him

  1. By far, my relationship with him has been the most manageable compared to the handful of relationships I’ve had. My middle name is Complicated. His is Simple. He simplifies every complicated aspect of myself.
  2. He listens when he has to and argues with me when he needs to. He doesn’t always have the right words to say but he is always there when I need to bitch out on life and I have no other way of doing it but to rant until I completely ran out of words. He knows when I need to be told and when I need to be consoled. For someone who doesn’t know when to shut up like me, him being there puts me in my right place and correct frame of mind.
  3. We always enjoy a good laugh. One time my friend said that it’s good for couples not to see each other often so that you don’t get tired of each other easily. It made me think if it applies to us. I ended up with a decided No. I don’t remember a day when we got totally bored with each other, even when we were still in college and we see each other 6 times a week. Just recently, when we were having lunch, we spoke of the most mundane and nonsense things anyone could think of. We were laughing until we finished eating. He said we spent 2 hours having lunch because I was so slow. To me, it was because I spent more time talking and laughing than eating.
  4. He walks with me even if he hates it.
  5. He doesn’t try to impress me. While prince charming is good, a real guy is even better.

I’ve never dreamt of a perfect partner. I’ve never wished for a perfect relationship. All I ever wanted was to be with a real person that I can entrust myself with. To me, this is as real as love can get.

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